This post was most recently updated on September 5th, 2019
Have you ever been in a long-distance relationship?
If you have, then you can relate to a lot of things in this post.
If you haven’t yet, but going to be shortly, then this might be a life-saving article for you.
Staying in a long-distance relationship has never been easier for anyone. When your relationship gets affected by distance, you have to compromise on too many things. You have to sacrifice a lot, and you mightn’t like that.
It’s not a cup of tea for everyone to stay dedicated to their relationship. As a result, long-distance becomes the cause for the breakup. Dealing with a breakup isn’t as easy as people say it is.
It doesn’t always have to be like that. When you truly love someone, a long-distance relationship shouldn’t be a big issue. Distance means so little when someone means so much for you. When you truly love someone, you will try your hard to save your failing relationship.
If a specific geographical separation can ruin your relationship, then you should question yourself about the worthiness of your love. There are various reasons for a long-distance relationship to fail, but if handled properly you can make them work.
In this article, you will get to learn six proven ways about how you can make your long-distance relationship work.
Communication is the key to a happy and healthy relationship.
I don’t think there is anything more important than proper communication to spice up a long-distance relationship.
You mightn’t be available 24 X 7, because of your reasons, but whenever you are free, try to spend maximum quality time with each other.
Take advantage of the technology.
Try to focus on video chatting rather than just an audio call. Share your joyful moments with each other.
Plan the future together
While being in a long-distance relationship, don’t let each other forget that this thing is only temporary.
Long-distance relationships aren’t permanent. Sooner or later, you will meet each other again.
Plan about what you will do when you meet each other again for the first time. Plan about where you would love to go together.
Plan for when and where you are going to get married. Talk about your honeymoon. Make a plan for how many kids you would love to have. Talk about what kind of house you would want to buy.
Talking about the future and dreaming future together brings you closer.
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Be honest with each other, and don’t break trust
If you can’t be honest with each other, then I’m afraid your relationship isn’t going to last forever.
Love exists because trust exists. When you are truly honest with them, this symbolizes how truly you love them.
If you tell them you are only with them, then please, be only with them.
Having affairs with others while you are in a long-distance relationship will break your partner’s trust towards you, and unfortunately, your connection will come to an end.
Tell them things they should know with complete honesty. Don’t keep secrets.
Talk through doubts and be faithful and committed to each other.
Give them space and respect each other’s personal choice
Giving each other space is a significant factor to make a long-distance relationship work.
Being in a relationship doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to only think about each other.
Like yours, they have their family and friends too. Sometimes they might want to hang out with their friends and be in their comfort zone. You should take it positively and let them have their personal space.
Actually, you should encourage them to spend some time with their friends and family. This will show how much you care about them.
Respecting each other’s personal choice helps to keep a relationship healthy and alive.
Care about each other
Though you are not physically close, try to be as more intimate as it gets virtually.
When they get sick, make them feel like you are there with them. Be in a video chat as long as they want. Give them attention when they are ill or going through a hard time. If you won’t, then who would?
Be with them when they need you the most.
Care about small things, and these little things are going to make a significant impact on your relationship.
Talk through doubts and misunderstandings
It’s a common thing among lovers to have doubts and misunderstandings.
If someone says, “I have never had a misunderstanding with my lover” or “we don’t have any problem in our relationship,” then they are probably lying.
Every relationship has discussions and fights. Having a healthy debate, time to time is a good thing in a relationship.
When you get angry with your partner, you say things that you shouldn’t say. It leads into a fight, and it’s not a good thing.
Without understanding the real matter, you should never jump into a conclusion. Try to hear the story from their side too.
Never try to talk through doubts via texting. Texting is an awful way of communication while you are fighting.
You might want to say something, but your partner might misinterpret it in another way. This miscommunication increases the problem rather than solving it. So make sure you call or video chat through these bad times.
I have been in a long-distance relationship for a couple of years, and I have personally experienced how hard it is.
There were times when I used to think I will never make it through this long-distance relationship.
I started getting so disturbed that I didn’t go to work for a couple of days. I didn’t eat properly. I couldn’t think straight, and this made me physically sick. Meanwhile, similar things were happening to my girlfriend too.
We missed each other so much that whenever we talked on the phone, we used to cry. Distance separated us, and it was killing us inside.
We truly loved each other, we trusted each other, and this love and trust gave us the strength to tackle through our hard times.
If the relationship matters, then the distance shouldn’t. If your love is real and you are faithfully committed to each other, then the long distance is just a temporary thing.
Communicate with each other daily if that’s possible. Share little moments of joy. Care for them. Make sure you respect their personal time. Plan for your future together and give your best to make it happen.
Trust each other and never break it. Be so honest that you don’t leave space for a third person to come and interfere in your relationship.
When you are honest with each other, there won’t be doubts and misunderstandings. But if there are, then talk through them.
The long-distance relationship is complicated; only when you make it complicated. Love is such a pure feeling. Respect it, preserve it and don’t let the temporary geographical separation drift it apart.
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