This post was most recently updated on August 7th, 2019
Getting rejected from a girl is embarrassing as well as heartbreaking.
It’s embarrassing because you thought she would say “yes” and she didn’t.
It’s heartbreaking because you have already started liking her and now it will be difficult for you to deal with it.
Rejection is an unavoidable part of the dating game.
We’ve all dealt with it in one way or another.
Dealing with the proposal rejection is not that easy. But, with the inner self-strength and right steps followed, it’s just a matter of time.
I have written five best ways for you to handle a proposal rejection from a girl. I am sure these steps will help you a lot to cope with it.
Ask her the reason for the rejection
Usually, when a girl says “no” to someone, she would give them the cause for the rejection.
But, if your girl doesn’t say anything, you should ask her the reason for why she is rejecting you. It’s your right to know, and it’s her responsibility to give you a specific answer.
There might have various reasons.
- She has a boyfriend.
- She doesn’t like you.
- You lack something.
- She isn’t ready to be on a relationship.
- She is focused on her goals.
- Her parents don’t allow her to be in a relationship.
- She likes staying being single.
When she gives you the cause for the rejection, you shouldn’t get aggressive with her. You should respect her decision and shouldn’t go back and forth, debating the issue.
Spend time with friends
I want to suggest you not to stay alone after you got rejected by a girl.
You might feel depressed, and negative thoughts might come to your mind.
To avoid this, you should spend the maximum of your time with your family and friends.
Friends are those beings who will always be there for you. They will support you and help you deal with the proposal rejection.
To make you feel better, they will say a lot of things. Here are some common examples for you.
- She doesn’t deserve you.
- She has no idea what she is missing.
- Come on, man. You will get a girl much better than her.
- She wasn’t that good anyway.
And, this one is evergreen. I bet every friend says this.
- There are plenty of fishes in the sea. She is not even a big deal, bro. You deserve better.
You should really spend some quality time with your friends and appreciate their company. This helps you to deal with loneliness and depression.
Don’t let it ruin your future
Rejection is a part of life. A girl rejected you, so what? Did it end your life? Won’t you get another girl ever again?
Remember what your friends say about being plenty of fishes in the sea. Think about it and don’t let the rejection demoralize your value.
Stay motivated towards your life goal, and don’t let it ruin your future.
Take the proposal rejection in a positive way
This is one of the best ways to deal with a proposal rejection from your crush.
She rejected you because you lacked something. Now, when she told you the cause for the proposal rejection, you get the idea about what you lack.
Sometimes rejection can be a wake-up call and can help you improve your life.
Think of a plastic water bottle with a hole underneath it.
No matter how many times you fill the bottle with water, the water will go out through the hole.
So, if you could find the hole and close it, the water won’t get spilled out next time.
Find what’s wrong with you, fix it and let it not be the reason for another proposal rejection.
Move on to another relationship
You love her, and I know it will be complicated for you to forget about her. As I always say, if there is even a little bit chance of acceptance, then you should propose her again. You never know what might be the outcome. She might accept you this time.
But, if the rejection is inevitable, you should try to forget her.
I know it’s not that easy. You can’t just remove her from your memories in a day or two. It takes time and a lot of sacrifices.
But, if you are leaning towards another relationship, then it will help you to speed up the forget-about-her process.
There is always a chance of rejection in every relationship. Here is my personal tip for you to keep in mind before moving on to the next relationship.
You shouldn’t propose a girl when you are ready. You should propose her when she is ready too. Before expressing your feelings, you should know whether she is ok or not to be in a relationship.
Use alternative word phrases of “I love you” and test if she responses to them positively. If she is giving you the positive signals, then you should go and propose her.
Dealing with a proposal rejection isn’t that easy as it may appear. It takes time, and with time, you will learn to handle it.
If you propose and she says no, is the relationship over? It doesn’t always have to be like that. You can stay as friends and get in touch with one another.
It’s better to get rejected while proposing rather than being in a relationship and breaking up after a few months. It’s hard to deal with a proposal rejection, but it’s harder to cope with a breakup.
Choose your steps wisely and avoid getting hurt.